Nigerian entrepreneur, Sandra Iheuwa, recently expressed her perspective on the role of “baby mamas” and their relationships with their partners via social media.
Her statement follows a lengthy Twitter rant by Sophia Momodu, the first baby mama of Davido, regarding men who use financial control to coerce women into staying in relationships, especially when children are involved.
Momodu emphasized that such individuals deserve a special place in hell and criticized the lack of protective laws for women and children in Nigeria.
Iheuwa, who shares children with businessman Steve Thompson and music executive Ubi Franklin, asserted that being a baby mama does not automatically entitle one to the wealth of the child’s father.
The entrepreneur stressed that although women have the right to hold deadbeat fathers accountable, accusations of financial abuse should not be directed at baby mamas, especially when the child’s father is actively involved and fulfilling his responsibilities in providing for the child.
“First of all being a baby mama doesn’t mean you should be entitled to your baby father’s money. The only responsibility he has is towards your child and it’s also your responsibility to take care of your child as well it shouldn’t be an avenue for you to make money or be taken care of… Now if your baby father is dead beat you can call him out with your full chest if you can do it every Eke market day that will be awesome too… Financial abuse doesn’t apply to baby mamas especially when the baby daddy is present and doing what he should for his child. Unless he stops taking care of his child. Most married women experience financial abuse from their spouse it’s like a scheme for them to stay in the useless marriage and have no means to leave. If you are a baby mama and have no means to leave. If you are a baby mama and your baby daddy is taking care of your child (be grateful) but not taking care of you and you are ranting “financial abuse”. Madam go and work and take care of yourself and your bills. I support women but I don’t support nonsense.
I don’t know why anyone will feel entitled to another’s person especially when you are not even a wife. If my son’s father was taking care of my son I would be grateful and will never rant but you will never catch me rant about him not taking care of me. It will never happen as long as I’m alive and well”.